Hire – employ someone for wages.
Growing up in the Black Church and family, I was taught the following in regards to counseling/therapy:
“You should be able to pray about it or you are not believing in God enough.”
“You don’t talk about what is going on in the family with someone outside of the family.”
“You are strong and shedding a tear or having to seek outside help makes you weak.”
So imagine in 2000 when I was called into purpose after asking God, “what am I suppose to do when I grow up?” Mind you, I was 37 and God led me to apply to the Master of Arts in Counseling Program at a private college. Around the same time, I was introduced to Life Coaching through a TV show called Starting Over. The work looked similar but I struggled with my own beliefs about counseling and did not understand what coaching was all about. I was being called to do both.
How did they fit together?
I hired a Coach who was a Counselor because I had been laid off from my job and did not completely know how to navigate this career change. I was going from the expert to the student in a profession that I was not sure about. Judith helped me to challenge my mindset and develop a plan. Then I hired a Counselor because if I was going to be a Counselor, I wanted to see how it was from the seat of the client. While sitting in the seat, I realized the value of having someone to walk through some stuff with that did not know me and help me to understand me. She was willing to hold that space with me.
I went through my own season of depression. I was feeling constricted and overwhelmed because I was trying to be the Strong Black Woman. During this season, I was not content with my own beliefs, barriers and behaviors about who I was and what I was called to do. I was questioning whether I was living the life that I was teaching others to live. Also my own foundational truths were coming into question about things I was taught growing up in the Black church.
I was seeking my Liberation.
In 2012, I hired another counselor and coach. My therapist has helped me integrate who I am as a person and my calling. She also has helped me to acknowledge my fear of wanting to be in an intimate relationship but scared to fall in love. She is helping me deal with my own singleness. Helping me to deal with my LIFE.
My coach has helped me to build a foundation for my business that allows me to connect who I am to what I do by getting out of my own way, owning my #BOSSstatus and leading a liberated lifestyle.
The reason I hire Counselors and Coaches (sometimes all wrapped in one) is because it is part of my Liberation process. Also I understand the value of the therapy and coaching experience. Another reason I believe that it is worth the investment and part of my own personal and professional development.
Maybe this will help you understand the different roles that a Counselor can hold in your life.
As a Counselor, I counsel people around identity and mindset work that impact their relationships, career and life. We dig deep and have to look at the past because it is foundational to who you are and what you do. I walk along side my clients and sit in the space with you.
As a Coach, I coach counselors and women leaders around identity and mindset work that get in their way from being the leader that are called to be and to own their #BOSSstatus. I will challenge you in the right now about what is keeping you stuck and help you develop a plan to move forward.
As a Consultant, counselors and aspiring entrepreneurs seek out my expertise on creating the foundation for their business that allows them to connect who they are and what they were created to do, so they can get out of their own way, own their #BOSSstatus and lead a liberated lifestyle.
Why do you hire a Counselor, Coach or Consultant? (Leave in the comments)